Marriage

The geeky couple

04.28.2010
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The kids are asleep so hubby and I finally have some geeky time. That’s the time when both of us sit on the bed with our laptops and do our thing whether it’s extra work (ack!), surfing the net or blogging. We do love to hang out and watch movies a lot but when we [...]

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“Already I’m so lonesome…”

03.24.2010
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I could cry. Hubby left for somewhere far away yesterday. And now it’s sinking in that he’ll be away for quite a long time. Seven days actually. Maybe not very long for some, but to me it is. Very long. As I always say, it’s easier for the one who leaves than the one who [...]

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How to deal with each other’s differences

05.21.2008
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One night, Kernan and I were about to have dinner when I found him holding up the two plates of hot rice in front of the aircon.

“What are you doing?” I asked.

“Cooling off the rice, it’s too hot. I like my rice a bit cold.”

“But I like my rice hot.”

“Okay, do you want me to reheat it for you in the microwave?”

“Oh, never mind.”

I love warm meals so I couldn’t quite understand then why Kernan preferred his a bit cold. He should eat his meals while they’re still warm because that’s the way it should be, shouldn’t it?

During our first months together, a lot of people would ask me how Kernan and I got along.

“You’re such opposites.” People would tell us.

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On broken trust and stronger love

05.09.2008
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It started with a series of text messages sent in the wee hours of the morning.

I would hear his cellphone’s beep and somehow I felt that there was something not quite right about it.

I would say a woman’s gut feeling is one of her most precious gifts. It is what helped me discover what was wrong.

For a time, I kept quiet about what I felt.

She could be just a friend. I tried to justify to myself.

Don’t be such a little jealous girl. I warned myself.

But why did I have such a nagging feeling about the whole thing?

Finally, I decided to ask. There was no point in killing myself over my own thoughts. Didn’t we say we will be open to each other about our problems?

All I needed to do was ask so I would find out the truth.

But I did not. He lied.

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