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Relationships

When you need a little corny in your life

07.08.2008
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Warning: An extremely corny post. If you’re not into corny-ness, please stop reading now.
One day, I pretended to text hubby out of the blue.
“Mahal, ano nga uli height mo? (Mahal, what’s your height again?)”
“5′5. Why?”
“Ha? Eh pano ka nagkasya sa puso ko?” (Huh? How did you fit into my heart?)”
“Nye.”
The following weekend, he took me [...]

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“If it’s important to you…”

05.31.2008
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I was supposed to type a blog entry last night when Kernan nudged me from the other side of the bed,

“Can you check this proposal for me?”

I had just put Jamaine to sleep and I was aching for some “me time” which meant either blogging, journaling or reading. I’ve been at work the whole day and I consider my “me time” my chance to unwind.

Checking Kernie’s proposal would take me a whole two hours, after which I know I’ll feel tired and just go to sleep. This means “me time” will just become sleep time.

Do I have to do this now? I thought to myself. The selfish brat was sticking out its head.

Then as if on cue, a friend’s words rung in my head,

If there’s one piece of marriage advice I could give you, it’s to remember this: ‘Honey, if it’s important to you, it’s important to me.’

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How to deal with each other’s differences

05.21.2008
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One night, Kernan and I were about to have dinner when I found him holding up the two plates of hot rice in front of the aircon.

“What are you doing?” I asked.

“Cooling off the rice, it’s too hot. I like my rice a bit cold.”

“But I like my rice hot.”

“Okay, do you want me to reheat it for you in the microwave?”

“Oh, never mind.”

I love warm meals so I couldn’t quite understand then why Kernan preferred his a bit cold. He should eat his meals while they’re still warm because that’s the way it should be, shouldn’t it?

During our first months together, a lot of people would ask me how Kernan and I got along.

“You’re such opposites.” People would tell us.

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Fat talks

05.14.2008
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Hubby packed his shirt, towels, ipod and gloves in his bag. He was getting ready to go to the gym.

As he took off his shirt to change into his gym clothes, he pinched the flesh on his belly and said, “I’m fat.”

“No you’re not, you’re just a bit chubby.”

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On broken trust and stronger love

05.09.2008
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It started with a series of text messages sent in the wee hours of the morning.

I would hear his cellphone’s beep and somehow I felt that there was something not quite right about it.

I would say a woman’s gut feeling is one of her most precious gifts. It is what helped me discover what was wrong.

For a time, I kept quiet about what I felt.

She could be just a friend. I tried to justify to myself.

Don’t be such a little jealous girl. I warned myself.

But why did I have such a nagging feeling about the whole thing?

Finally, I decided to ask. There was no point in killing myself over my own thoughts. Didn’t we say we will be open to each other about our problems?

All I needed to do was ask so I would find out the truth.

But I did not. He lied.

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Missing you…

04.27.2008
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Kernan left for China last Friday for a special project and he won’t be back until Tuesday. I’ve been missing him a whole lot and wish I could pull the days faster.
Since roaming charges can pack a ton, we just communicate through text which makes me miss him even more.
The last time we were away [...]

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Simple ways to keep the sparks in your marriage

03.09.2008
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One night, I got a text message from hubby, “If I decided to work abroad to support our family, would you quickly get rid of me?”
I knew he was visiting a friend who was scheduled to fly to UAE the next day. Kernan said the wife seemed okay with her husband leaving and showed no [...]

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Quit the unrequited love

03.07.2008
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“I’m still not over him.”
My friend M and I were talking over lunch and I was asking her about the state of her heart. She confessed that she still can’t stop thinking about him and wondering when they could see each other again.
Him is a guy she met at work last year. From M’s stories, [...]

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12 things I learned from 1 year of marriage

10.12.2007
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One year ago, Kernan and I were wed in simple and wonderful civil rites in Binan, Laguna.
The other day, we celebrated 5 years and 4 months of our relationship and 1 year as husband and wife.
He often asks if we could just pick one date to celebrate: either our official date in June [...]

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